We all deal with heavy sh#t all the time, but most of us are really good at hiding it and holding it in. I know I was really good at that in the past.
On the outside I looked like the happiest person in the world. Everything was peachy and perfect, or so it seemed to anyone that would see me. In truth I was unhappy and sad.
But I was able to get out of my funk and it took me realizing that nobody has a totally perfect life or situation. We are all dealing with crap in some form or another.
If you feel like everything that could go wrong is, you need to understand we all deal with it. It’s how we handle it that matters and there are some things that I did that helped me and they can help you too. Thanks for reading! 🙂
Grab a Coffee with a Friend
One of the best ways for me to clear my head was to just grab a coffee with a friend. Most times I never talked about what was bothering me. I didn’t have to.
Simply being around a friend and talking about regular stuff just eased my mind and turned a bad mood into a good one. We are all very busy with our own lives, but when you get together with a friend you tend to transport into your own little worth that you both understand.
Try to work in a 20 minute coffee date with a good friend every week. It did wonders for me.
It doesn’t matter if your family lives down the street or 3,000 miles away. Talking to them on the phone is very calming.
It’s something that the professionals say works well and I could be having the worst day ever, but as soon as a family member picks up the phone and I hear the “hello” everything is better.
A quick 10 minute call in the evening helps me put my mind to ease. This has greatly reduced my anxiety levels.
Talk to a Professional
TThis is something many people avoid because they are embarrassed. I was also but finally did it. I now see a concierge doctor monthly. It helps so much and I suggest everyone give it a shot.
There are plenty of online resources if you need to find a local professional. Websites like claritychi.com exist to make the process as easy as possible.
There is no need to feel weird. So many people talk to professionals and there is a good chance a lot of your close friends and family do and you don’t even know it.
Stay Off Social Media
I have reduced the amount of time I spend on social media by a lot. I used to spend hours a day on social media. Now I might spend 5 minutes a day tops.
What you see on there is not real, so there is no need to be jealous or feel like you aren’t at the same level. Once you tune out social media you will become more clear in the head and you will realize how much of your life you were wasting on Facebook and Instagram.
Going to the gym 6 days a week and also running in the evening a few nights a week had a positive impact on me. If you are inactive you feel lazy. Laziness will eventually impact your mind.
Get out and move!
Even if you are not naturally athletic you can walk around the neighborhood or even go walk in the mall if it’s cold or during the winter months. Moving around and being active is so healthy for your thought process.
Write or Blog
Writing is good for your mental health, as proven by experts. Whether you write in a journal or publish a blog, spend some time every week writing.
It helps you clear your mind. Consider it a form of self education that will help your mind, body and soul.